Learning....Rants and Laughs

This past month has been filled with learning for me.  I'm going to do this in list style because my thoughts aren't always in order.  This should be fun!

1. Honoring your parents doesn't mean being a doormat.  This is a form of abuse that extends childhood and on to adulthood.  Just because you are the parent, doesn't mean you still get to rule the life of your adult child.
2. Doctor's don't know everything.  They switch medications without even talking to the patient.  When a patient says, "I've tried it before and I felt strange, but I'm willing to try it again." doesn't mean lets do it.  It means that medication should be out of the question!!!
3. People will foster children for the money (just plain WRONG!!!).  I went to talk to someone this week about some things.  She asked if I worked.  I told her no, my auditory processing disorder made it hard for me to find a job I could do without phones and a lot of noise.  She suggested that I do Foster Care for money.  That some people use it as a full time job and get paid really well.  My thoughts on Foster Care are this, 1) I don't think I could foster personally because I would get too attached to the children in my care and not want to give them up. and 2) using children to get money!!!!  I do realize that if you foster, you do need some extra money for raising the child and all, don't get me wrong.  But to foster just for the money!!!!  That's a morality issue right there!!!
4. Some people think it's very easy to get an attorney.  We have been told several times in the past few weeks that we needed an attorney for somethings.  When they were told that our income was too low to pay for one, the answer would then be, you could probably go through legal aide.  Wrong!!  Our income is too high!!!
5. You have to rid the TOXIC people from your life!!  A Toxic person is anyone that makes your life so miserable that it negatively affects your health.  If you think of someone and you start getting ill (not the happy butterflies, but ill), they are a toxin to you!  Stay away!!
6. Not all counselors have had the pleasure of dealing with Infertiles.  The same person I was talking to from #3 gave me the Infertiles most dreaded comment: you could always adopt!  Getting into that can of worms.... In our situation, all we need is a simple surgery and then we will be back on track.  Our surgery will cost less than $5,000.  An adoption cost over $10,000 and that's for one adoption.  Then, even after you pay all that money and all the emotional cost (which I would think would be worse) it's still not a guarantee that you will have that child.  I know or know of too many people that got right there to the end of the adoption proceedings, and the mother changed her mind.  Yes, I do realize that a positive pregnancy test doesn't always mean that Baby will arrive. 
7. If there are rules that need to be enforced, put them in writing and make them clear!  We were visiting a friend last week.  The place he was at had some very strict rules, but only a fraction were made known to the public.  While I wasn't the one to break these rules, I watched as they harassed a woman because she didn't follow the unknown rules.  She broke the rules all day, but didn't react unprofessionally until she'd been there for over eight hours.  Later on, I looked for those rules.  In the rules that were given to the general public, it said nothing about what had happen.  MAKE UP YOUR MINDS!!!
8. When taking blood pressure medication, wear lots of sunscreen!!! Yesterday, I helped fix the front porch.  I didn't take my meds, so I didn't worry about being out in the heat and the sun burn.  I have thoroughly learned my lesson :) 
9. The best time to write a blog is when you are alone and listening to music.  I haven't wrote a lot because I've been constantly going.  Tonight, I have finally relaxed, got out of my hormonal mood swings and got a moment to myself.  I'm listening to music that reminds me of my childhood and of Terri.  Not necessarily songs that are "Terri songs" but some that just make me remember the good times. 
10. And the most important....Stress can make you reschedule medical test because your body doesn't cooperate!  I was supposed to go for my very first breast MRI early this month.  They (whoever THEY are) now say to get the first (baseline) mammogram or MRI done when you are 10 years younger than the age of the youngest relative was diagnosed.  Terri was 40 when her breast cancer was found.  I'll be 30 in 17 days.  I do have fibroid cyst already and found them when I was 25.  Anyway, I was mentally prepared for this MRI.  I'm not sure how it will be preformed and I hate MRIs because they are enclosed.  I haven't had a MRI in over 5 years and that was on my brain.  Well, for this MRI, my body has to act right.  Earlier this month, there were some issues going on that really stressed me out.  My body, being mean, decides it's not going to work.  So, my MRI had to be postponed.  I go next week to have it done.

Well, I think that's about all for now.  I'm feeling even more relaxed and all.  Good night (or morning)!!!